Bob Marley has this quote that says, “The biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman’s love with no intention of loving her.”
And to that I say this: for any man entering (or trying to re-enter) any woman’s life…if your intentions are dishonorable, if you want only to take and not give, if you aren’t clear about what you want and need, if you aren’t emotionally (or otherwise) ready, and if you cannot add value: emotional, joy, love and financial value and commit to the process and the relationship, then do yourself and us a favor and keep it moving.
Don’t open a woman’s heart if you have no intention of doing right, being right and loving her. And if you aren’t capable of loving and staying-then stop before you start. To be in it, you have to be “ready, willing and able…”(in my Jaheim voice). If you play games, or dabble in it…if you toy with her emotions and heart, be ready to manage whatever the outcome of that looks like. Don’t play victim when it gets real. At this point in life, none of us have time for anything less than ALL IN LOVE. Most women have had enough of the nonsense, I know I have. I won’t do it anymore. Come correct or don’t come. Either way, we will be fine. Love us or let us be!
Now that you know…let’s proceed~
~by Rhonda E. Frost
OMG you are totally on point I’m so sick of putting my heart on the line only to get into the relationship for 3 months and have it all be one sided but then your at fault because things don’t go his way I’m tired I’m done
Hi Rhonda,
I apologize for the delayed response, I was unaware that I had comments pending. We’ve all been there. The goal is to learn from our choices and to avoid people who have no intentions of loving us. They always show us the signs, it’s up to us to pay attention. Check out my new podcast where we ask men the tough questions and explore related topics further. The goal is to get to healthy relationships and self-love. https://whatshesaidpodcast.com/
The problem with valuables is that there are thieves. I find, sadly, one of the most favourite past times of many young men today is spending lots of time convincing themselves what’s valuable really is not (porn) so they don’t feel so bad about trying to steal it to partake in the pleasures it may bring. They are truly stupid because not only do they ruin what is valuable, they ruin within and rob themselves of the opportunity to know the real glory and pleasure that comes with earning that something valuable and knowing it’s truly theirs for eternity.
Agter being in a horrible narcissistic abuser relationship broken aandntotslly alone .. I.meet a man and tell him I’m ot ready.. I dont want an relationship…. he does all what u can imagine to make me.fall in love with him ….I do … one year later he leaves me and tells.me he needs to find love..
.I am.distroyed
Hello,
Thank you for reading my post. I am sorry to hear this news about your relationship. I feel your pain. I’ve been in those types of relationships and I too have had my heartbroken. What I’ve learned is, we are stronger than we realize and we will survive heartbreak. In that moment, and in the months and sometimes years that follow, it does feel like we are “destroyed” but when it’s all said and done, our hearts mend. It’s our thoughts that we have to get right. The mind is powerful. Our thoughts are powerful. We have to speak love, peace, and inspiration into ourselves daily. I hope you are better today than you were back in October. I apologize for the delayed response. I was not getting notifications that I had comments. I see now, I have quite a few.
Why this hit me hard sigh. He blocked me 2 weeks ago after 1 year of being together. He was the best thing I’ve ever encountered until I started to love him back and he stop coming around. He started to pull up the ‘I’m not ready’, ‘I’m not looking for a relationship’ card. I always told him that he’s being so mean for doing that. I mean you can’t make someone to love you then when they start to love you and you pull away. Like I’m hurts and in pain that he do that but I pray and hope for healing
I’m too in the same position. I’m heartbroken and damaged. I gave my all but it’s not enough. I can do anything for him but all my love is annoying for him. He doesn’t want anything of it, he want me out of his life completely but he is the one started it when I wasn’t sure. He made me fallen for him then throw me in the bin. How can a man be so cruel to someone love him so much and done so much for him. No one have the right to make another person suffer in pain let along someone that truly love them. I’m loss….